Loving the Curls

Texture discrimination is giving an unjust treatment towards women with a tight curl pattern.Since Team Natural isn't just a hashtag anymore and hardly anyone is getting relaxers anymore, there is a lot of talk about “good hair” and “bad hair”. Let’s just say you have two women wearing the same hairstyle… let's go with a wash n go. Same style different texture, 4c, and 3b. In most cases, the women with the 3b hair pattern will be uplifted while the 4c women wouldn’t get the same treatment. I can only speak from what I’VE SEEN.
    

When I first went natural my hair texture was so different from what is now. It was a lot tighter and I honestly didn't know what I was doing. I would straighten it, causing all types of heat damage. Til one day I thought maybe my natural hair isn't so bad. I wore it out in an up-down little do and my friend wore hers’ in the same style(who is biracial). A guy in my class looked at me and said why are you trying to be like her. I was appalled because I wasn’t. I thought I was trying to embrace my hair, my curls, and myself.
  

 There is no such thing as a bad hair texture only bad hair when it isn’t properly taken care of. We have stopped embracing the European standard of beauty, but have found another way to divide each other. Nothing is wrong with using weave, braids, or wigs as a protective style, but you shouldn’t be used to shield you from your own beauty.
   

 Over the years I have learned to love my natural hair, yes my pattern has become looser and a lot more manageable, but that wasn't the reason why I shifted my mindset. There is a guy at my job that told me that he’s glad that his children do not have hair like me. In the past, I would have sunken down in my shell. I just came to the realization this is me and who gives a shit what anyone else thinks. 

I am not my hair

I am not this skin

I am not your expectations 

I am not my hair

I am not this skin

I am a soul that lives within         

                                                                          - India.Arie